Especially in this festive season.
Being busy and involved with life somehow gets in the way of the sexual bond partners share, placing relationships in real danger of disconnection.
To ensure that your relationship does not suffer decline because of your busy lifestyle, becoming more intentional with your sex life becomes a little more important.
Enter, maintenance sex.
“Maintenance sex is making sex a priority and just doing it even if you aren’t in ‘the mood’,” Kelley Kitley, a psychotherapist and licensed clinical social worker, told Elite Daily.
“In long-term relationships, if couples wait too long until they are both ‘in the mood’ or ‘feeling sexy’ or ‘not tired’, they will never have sex,” described Kitley.
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Against popular beliefs, scheduled sex is not always boring. It certainly does not have to be!
“You can get yourself in the mood by preparing beforehand,” Kitley explained.
“Take a shower, use clitoral stimulation to get yourself in the mood, sleep naked so it’s easy access,” she recommends.
For this concept to work at all, it goes without saying that both partners have to be intentional and super-involved in making things work.
“Ultimately, maintenance sex needs to be a choice by both people who are participating, not forced,” she reinforces.
Even though initially “maintenance sex” may feel like a buzz kill, it will inevitably bring you and your partner together and that could be just what you need to reset your sex life alight!