It is getting to my nerves because all my friends now have girlfriends.
Dear Bukky,
I am 22 years of age and I am becoming concerned with my situation. I've never been in a relationship before because, I've faced rejection more than six times, and being ignored has somehow lowered my self-esteem.
It is interesting that my colleagues who get dating ideas from me are successful unlike me. Is it because of my shyness or desperation or being picky, I really can't tell because even my best friend rejected me and told me she only likes me as her friend.
I think that happened because I cared a lot about her and she didn't want to lose me. She says my personality is that of a person who cares too much, maybe that’s what the problem is.
It is getting to my nerves because all my friends who we used to have single boys jazz now have girlfriends and my female friends have boyfriends now except me. It's troubling me seriously.
Please what can I do to escape this single life because it is making me feel really uncomfortable.
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Dear reader,
I think you are being too hard in yourself. Getting a relationship isn’t something that should have you all tangled up this way. Not only is there infinite enjoyment, freedom, peace of mind and growth to be found in being single and all by yourself, there is also something nice about a love that blossomed when you were not even looking for it per se.
Now this is not to say intentionality in relationships is wrong, it’s only to further assert that you have nothing to be worried about, sincerely.
If you are sure of the goodness of your heart and that you have no significant character flaws that repel people off you, then I think it’s a matter of patience before you find the love of your life.
Please wait for it, and while you’re doing this ensure to keep living your best life.
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