I still love her and see a future with her but I'm just wondering; isn't this enough reason to quit?
Dear Bukky,
There is this young Christian lady I met during my second degree days in the university. Back then, she was a practicing registered nurse graduate.
We became friends and I let her realized that I wanted her as my wife, but she has not been taken me seriously. It is in her nature to always take things with levity. What a complacent lady she is.
Just like herself, her parents wouldn't allow her to settle down and marry without being a university graduate nurse.
Because of the love I have for her, I have waited this long. She now have just two semesters left in the university to be a graduate nurse, in line with her dream and aspiration.
We had little misunderstanding late last year and got it resolved. She has slightly changed in attitude and has now started telling me another story of me not [being] physically up to her taste.
She says further that; since I can't change physically to her taste, it’s only God can change the projected image she already have in her mind of the kind of guy she wants to marry.
Left to me, I would have abandoned her long ago but my instinct keeps telling me that this lady is my future wife.
I'm confused. What should I do?
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Dear reader,
I might not know how keen or accurate your instinct usually is, and neither can I be sure of the kind of relationship you share with it.
What I know, however, is that your instinct can’t force the woman to agree to marrying you. It can only propel you to make a move.
I don’t think you should pay attention to that instinct on this matter. See, if you have been with someone for this long and they are just bringing up the issue of physical attraction being an impediment to your being together, I think that should tell you something as loudly as things could possibly be said.
That woman is not so interested anymore and is just looking for the easiest way to get out of the relationship.
Ideally I’d say try to get closure. Ask her to be as honest as possible but I suspect you might have done that already to no avail.
See that abandonment thing you spoke of, I think that is exactly what you should do.
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