Who makes better partner, Nigerian babes in Nigeria or Nigerian babes abroad?
The suitability of Nigerian born babes as wife materials recently took a hit on social media when a certain tweep dropped a tweet which reads:
“I think that Nigerian American girls make better wives than Nigerian born girls because we are more independent, we love to work for what we have, and we cause less drama, tweets Naija Gawdess.
“We don’t expect our men to be millionaires right away, but we love to work side by side with him to build.”
Of course, Nigerian girls in Nigeria did not take kindly to the tweet and came for the tweeter immediately. She has since deleted the tweet and changed her handle.
Although Naija Gawdess now claims to have made the tweet as a joke, it still reflects, to an extent, the image projected and perceived of Nigerian women.
That tweet suggests that Nigerian babes are dependent, lazy, entitled, very dramatic and impatient with unusually high standard.
To determine the truth or otherwise of these claims, we reached out two Nigerian ladies – Bolanle who has lived in Nigeria all her life and Nora who’s lived abroad for over 18 years. And here’s what they have to say about which Nigerian girl has more yards of wife material
Nigerian girl in Nigeria
About claims that Nigerian women are dependent and lazy, Bolanle says:
“When I saw that tweet I was pissed off because I felt that was just someone abroad who had too much light and decided to type rubbish on the Internet.
“Do you know how much work Nigerian women put in? The effort they invest into bettering themselves and paying their own bills? Loads of Nigerian women do daily 8-5 jobs and still have side hustles.
I assure you that Naija babes even do more than many men.”
And this comment has some merit. Actually it is even backed up by fact. Stats shared in 2015 shows that women in Nigeria are four times more likely to be entrepreneurs than women in the USA.
Some might say, in a way, that Naija Gawdess was right about Nigerian girls being entitled.
This is because over time, some practices have become common in the Nigerian dating scene. Acts which collectively lend credence to the belief that Nigerian girls only do transactional relationships.
In other words, there is this strong belief that if you are not spending, home-based Nigerian babes believe your brand of love is inferior.
For example: most times, a babe you like will likely not visit you except you promise to pay her bus or cab fare – to, fro or both.
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Defending this practice, Bolanle says ladies only do this as a reflection of the economic state they’ve found themselves in.
“Many people do not even earn up to 50k in this country and the frivolities they can afford are so little in such instances.
“I think anyone who can’t deal with a woman incapacitated by her low financial standing should not bother dating her.
“There are surely babes out there who can afford little things as cab fares. Go out and find them and stop generalizing women under stereotypes.”
Nigerian babe abroad
About Nigerian girls in Nigeria being so entitled, Nora who moved to England at the age of 7 says:
“I really can’t say much. I only believe that it is better to have a guy do something willingly, because he really wants to do it.
“Once you make him it with the threat of denying him some favour or another, you have crossed the line.”
Nora believes, however, that this behavior is not something exclusive to Nigerian girls at home.
“I’ve seen Nigerian girls in London who are really just as bad as what that tweet painted.
They won’t move an inch or do anything until the guy pays.”
Naija babes at home vs The ones abroad
In the end, Nigerian babes are Nigerian babes and things like this should not even be an argument.
One’s melanin might have been somewhat freshened up by snow while the other one has hers constantly popping due to the sun incessantly kissing her skin but in the end, Nigerian girls remain Nigerian girls.
The only difference is their character, "self respect" and “values”, Nora says.
It’s not about where the Nigerian girl lives or what the cultural realities of the place is.
What counts, as Ciara recently tried to explain, is the substance of a woman's character, whether or not she matches what a man desires in a woman per time.
Home or abroad, any Nigerian babe can be a perfect wife for any man. Everyone just needs to find the flavour that suits them best - home made or exotic.
NB: Names of the two interviewees have been changed to protect their identitities.