Regardless of who is right or wrong there are some certain things that should not be altered during an argument.
In every relationship there is bound to be argument. Regardless of who is right or wrong there are some certain things that should not be altered during an argument.
As much as possible try to be calm while arguing cause remember words altered can never be taken, back. So here is a list of things you should never ever say to your partner
You are immature
If you consider the person immature then why are you dating the person in the first place. This means you are telling you partner that he/she is childish. This is never to be altered at all.
Insult/Curse
This is just the height. Do not exchange words with your partner. No matter how provoked you are do not call your partner names. Words have a way of recurring in the subconscious overtime.
I regret dating you
This is similar to the time spent with you has been a waste. To regret means to wish that a thing had not happened. There are better ways to resolve your argument than insulting.
Body Shame
This act is not only bad, it is could lead to depression especially if the person is already insecure. So you have to be careful. Body shaming is simple terms is talking about someone's body size, height with the intent to make the person feel bad. For instance- You are so fat!
You are irresponsible
By telling your partner that he/she is irresponsible you simply are saying he/she lacks a sense of responsibility. Some people even go as far as comparing their partner to others.
At a point the argument will drift from the initial cause of the argument to the five things listed above. The result is that both parties are fuelled by the insults as well as other negative things that are said and this could lead to emotional, psychological and even physical abuse.
So rather than altering these statements it is advisable to settle your issues as amicably as possible. The way you deal with your partner when issues arise goes a long way to tell how you truly feel about the person. If you have been guilty of any of these then it is time to change.
Article by Mayowa Durojaye