A bully is someone who is cruel to others especially those who are weaker or have less power.
Some percentage of adults of today can give accounts of their experiences with bullies when they were children while some are still faced with these cruel acts of bullies at their adulthood.
THE BULLIED
To some people, having had a bully one time in their lives has been seen as a blessing in that getting bullied had pushed them into finding themselves , and building themselves to be stronger than they used to be.
For those lucky ones who found themselves to belong to this group, I’d say getting bullied was a blessing because chances are that if they had not encountered any act of bully, they may still be individuals with no strong will to stand for anything.
Then shouldn't we see this from another angle? What if these people who rose to be strong in spite of being bullied have always had it in them to rise, more like they needed that punch of a bully to gear them up from their slumber, that is whether bullied or not, they could still rise to fight and to stand on their feet.
However, for those of us who never saw anything good in being bullied, how then do we avoid it? Should we be termed as naturally timid, and is there any possible way by which anyone can escape being bullied so that we can be less timid and fearful?
Especially those of us who have been suffering this from our childhood till present adulthood.
THE BULLY
Absolutely everyone should have reason for their actions and in this; bullies should not be left out.
For what reason or reasons would make an individual result in to being a bully?
Could it be that there may be a hiding fact that they also have some problems of inferiority complex and low self esteem which drives them into striving to keep that from the eyes of the world thereby covering those shortcomings up with traits of a bully?
If research has it that not all bullies are truly strong willed then why should an individual allow a fellow timid individual turn them to a more timid fellow or make them more fearful?
With this, it appears that both the bully and the bullied could be walking from the same lonely path, the same pit of fear and timidity, the only difference obviously is way with which both of them handle their dilemma.
Written by Bukolami Ajayi.
Bukolami Ajayi is an Administrator, a Pedagogue, A Writer and a committed advocate to Mental Health in all its phases. Follow her on IG page http://ift.tt/2CXCyeS and on Twitter @bukkiesteph